turtle island

Turtle Island

Many of you who read my ramblings here, or know me personally, are aware of how potent Turtle has been to me as totem, and also how She has transfigured for me along my journey. (a brief search of the word ‘turtle’ in the search box here reveals dozens of posts in which her Name is embedded)  From those early assurances of protection through withdrawal (an introvert’s credo) through the understanding that I am called to carry my home with me wherever I go, to not step outside of my centeredness in Love, belonging, and self (an inner/outer integrity) , to the way she burrows beneath the cold and sustains her very being with the essence of herself, she has tutored me well.  

Many indigenous cultures hold reverence for the Turtle. In the more watery regions of this earth, She is often understood as the Island where human life begins.  So, recently, when an image* came to me, with which to sit in prayer (a visio lectio meditation) of a woman (at least that is what I saw) kneeling in a posture of supplication… or was it desolation… or was it submission, grief, defeat…or the rest of child’s pose, I saw Turtle Island. Her legs and arms at the base of the sculpture were adorned in watery blues, and as the sculpture rose through the greens of shoulders, hips, back of head, to the tans and earthy browns of upper and lower back, and on upward to the gaping red swirl atop her back , above her heart, I saw the earth rising from the water. A newborn island of welcome erupted from a volcano.

And so, I wrote to Her in me/in you

 From deep within your pain
grief, arising,
emerging or erupting ,
- it matters not  to me
if it was slow or sudden,
violent or gentle-
you have been lifted
from that place in which you
were submerged, beneath
the dark or turbulent.  

Some see only your despair,
for now at least, but I
see you, in your rising,
laying down
of burden from your back,
vulnerability  now revealed
as sacred ground
like those volcanic islands
of the Ancient One
welcoming the human

You have risen from that dark sea,
your back at first aflame
where it opened to your heart,
flowing, overflowing, unseaming ,
and at first seeming,
to lay destruction
in your wake
But I see that watery hue
surrounding you
protecting you
you did no harm in rising

Your posture
is not one of power nor of import,
aggression nor attack-
no pillar of strength are you-
but of surrender,
stillness letting go
into something bigger than yourself
opening that heart
of yours to Universe

And you become
an island, lush,
of hospitality where life
on earth might be borne
where the weary or the wounded
might land or crawl
upon your submission
for refuge or for rest,
shelter, nurture, hope
but most of all,
belonging.
  • I am hoping to garner permission to share the image here. For now you might follow this link from the artist, Diane Therese Pinchot’s, page (scroll down, you’ll know which one )

Christmas passed

“How could it be so? It came without ribbons. It came without tags. It came without packages, boxes or bags. And he puzzled and puzzled ’till his puzzler was sore. Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn’t before. What if Christmas, he thought, doesn’t come from a store. What if Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more.”

― Dr. Seuss, How the Grinch Stole Christmas!

Dear great…. granddaughter,

Here I sit in the early morning, 3 days post -Christmas, and not only has the Day passed, but so has the anxiety and pain that came along with the lead up to it. As things went the holy-days filled up with blessing upon blessing, despite -and perhaps because of- it not looking a thing like Christmases past. No physical gathering, no physical touch, no sharing of meals, yet intimacy and connection still somehow unfolded within the day’s embrace.

Packages were opened, virtually, after having been dropped on doorsteps in the monsoon-like rains of Christmas eve. “Appointments’ were made with each of our children’s families (so there were 7 of them in all) to meet, both one-on-one and as a whole, which made the 24 hours of Christmas eve and Christmas day quite full indeed.

Strangely, however, the computer somehow allowed for a disconnection from the material gifts, and an opening to one another’s presence, as opposed to their presents. Quieter conversations were enabled in the small ‘face-to-face’ meetings, outside of the chaos of more typical large gatherings. Even within the large screen mayhem of 7 households joining to open Secret Santa gifts, it was suddenly plain to see that the gift exchange is always really a means to an end- to get all of us to settle into one space in order to attend to one another, individually, within that large circle of belonging.  The packages, of course, are never the meaning, no matter how we stress over desiring to make some meaningful connection through that giving and receiving of gifts. It is about being seen— and the gift giving is merely the frame for containing that desire.

In the end, it was the gift of conversation this Christmas that I will cherish, long after those packages are forgotten. And while that didn’t happen so much in the large zoom gathering of all of those combined households, which in so many ways mimicked the chaos (Grinch would call it the ‘noise, noise, noise, noise!’) of an actual gathering of us all- with people talking over one another, and me being unable to pick up on what is being said across the room- I found that if I put myself on mute and just gazed upon them all, the deep joy of witnessing that abundance filled me.  Catching a glimpse of my own face from time to time on that screen, I noted my beaming countenance. That is a lesson for me of the posture I might assume in the future at such large gatherings of family— the sitting back to gaze in wonder at it all, not in a zoning out, but in a taking in the of the abundance.

Too often, I suspect, I have been looking for intimacy in the midst of those festivities, where that is truly impossible— looking for love in all the wrong places, or should I say, looking for the wrong kind of love, because the feeling I had on Christmas day was definitely one of Love. This was a setting aside of my ‘need’ to be seen in order to see, my ‘need’ for intimacy in order to receive abundance, gratitude, and joy. By being with the whole of it, embracing all of them, I realized the message I had received in the Newberry Award winning children’s book, which I had read a few days prior to Christmas, before gifting it to one of my granddaughters, “Love is not divided, It is multiplied!”

For so many years, I have thought of my love as needing to be divided in so many ways, and have so felt that there was never enough of me to go around. I have lamented not being able to develop the closer intimacies that I have observed in my friends’ relationships with their smaller families, which have enabled them to be more involved, to say ‘yes’ more easily within the confines of one finite human life.  I have, most often sadly, acknowledged the inherent differences between being a parent/grandparent of a large family versus a small one. I can’t possibly be with/for all of mine in the same way I see other women can. There is inherently more sacrificed in a large family, in so many ways, but what I realized more fully this season, is that there is also inherently more abundance.

There were precious one-on-one moments too, which occurred in the necessary scheduling of time–as in the sitting around a tinsel tree, bundled to the hilt, in a driveway- and in the impromptu- a last minute invitation to take a  hike a few days later, the early morning day-after phone call, alike. That morning phone call from one of my sons felt a bit like pillow talk after the frenzy of lovemaking, and I shall, like Mary of old, cherish those things that I heard in my heart.  My husband also connected with one of his sons, because of that structure we set up of setting aside one-on-one space, in a way that he hasn’t in years, and in a way that felt like opening the door to a healing of the brokenness between them.  (He, too, typically sees him only in the context of the larger family gathering. )

For many years now, Don and I have been lamenting not having had the opportunity at Christmastime to connect one-on-one with any of our children, have talked about changing the way that we ‘do’ Christmas. As full as those individual meetings with our families made of our overly scheduled day (I burnt every meal I tried to put on the table for the 2 of us because of those ‘distractions’, which made me realize too, how much energy is wasted around that particular striving– to offer the perfect holiday feast— when it is the gathering around the table for nurture, which is the point of that endeavor.), we learned that there was something in that instinct to change that was right. Oh, how often is it that we feel the urge to change but cannot affect it until the change is thrust upon us from outside of our control! I thank Covid for that.

For too many years, I have experienced the common post-Christmas let down, as that one day could never hold all those old worn-out expectations of mine — that it be a place of intimate connection for me, where I felt, perhaps, like I did as a child when, for that one day of the year, I felt attended to, seen,  beloved – when the gift was just right, as if the person truly knew me, or vice versa was received by the other as if they deeply valued me.  I have been trying to get, perhaps, what is impossible for one day to give.

And so, this holy human longing, which comes out so vulnerably at Christmas time for so many of us, and then leaves us feeling raw and exposed, strangely empty, or bereft, as if we are on the outside of something ‘looking in’ at what we imagine others are feeling or receiving, may be because we are asking it to provide the wrong thing, something innately impossible given its structure, especially in large families. You know what they say about expectation, after all.

What the day can offer, for me, I realized , is this stepping back – not as in being on the outside looking in, but to gaze in wonder at the abundance in the chaotic multiplication of Love in this place. That feels like maturity to me. That feels like Love to me, too. That feels a bit like Godde to me.  Synchronistically, the gift that my son, in that early ‘morning-after’ phone call, gave to me was his wonder and gratitude for the way I have been a loving presence in his life, simply watching in Love and letting him make his own journey without censure, knowing he his always beheld in that Love .

And, yet, I cannot leave my reflection of the day without acknowledging that my heart remaind heavy for one in our family, whom I deeply cherish, who is feeling so isolated and alone, especially so this year, without a human source for this deeper intimacy, this being known and seen in the ‘one soul to one soul’ way that human beings so need. How painful Christmas is for her, how she always feels like she is on the outside looking in at the closeness she perceives in others, craving their relationships like a starving ghost. And I think I understand that feeling in her just a little bit more than I did yesterday.  While she may be able to grasp, one day, this gazing in Love at the abundance of family, she does not yet have in her life the balancing, deepening, healing experience of that one deep, loving heart-to-heart connection.  My heart continues to break open for her in that longing.

I know a Source where I can go to be seen and received, which is not an external one, but perhaps that is far too easy for me to say, because I also have the intimacy of human love. And although all of us are truly alone (we can never fully be known by another) my own loneliness is not so prevalent a feeling in my life. I so long for her to know this human intimacy too. May it be so…..

So, yes, Christmas came and went, despite, or because of, the loss of Christmas. Isn’t it ‘funny’ how being stripped of something will do that ? – help you see past the clutter that was burying it to find the nugget of gold? How loss is so often succeeded by unexpected and previously unknown gifts? How we resist changing, and how blessed we are, in the end, by being changed?

And how the human heart… with all of its grief and longing and sorrow, hope and joy and love…. is always the gift to be unwrapped.

gentle grace of christmas morning

Dear great, great, grandaughter of mine,

It is Christmas morn, nearly 7 am, and across towns and cities, radiating in all directions, Christmas has arrived for children.. who are perhaps now your grandmothers. Magic has awakened them early. I send out messages of welcome, deep smiles of hope for that joy. I am glad.

But many are sad. (it is this way every Christmas. It is a difficult time for those who are grieving, who are lonely, who are suffering, but this year, it is particularly so). I’m aware of it in myself, now , too. It’s funny, how I didn’t think it was there, how really I thought I was content. Sorrow can be that way. It can hide under many faces, and it can be present alongside even contentment. A little nugget that screams for our attention, too, at times, like Horton’s Who, “I am here, I am here, I am here” We are never the whole of our feelings, though they can consume us at times, making us believe that is so.

As Walt Whitman once said, we contain multitudes.

And we are more than them too. We are the One who can see them all, hold them all, feel them all.

Yesterday, I felt it, the sorrow. I think it came out screaming at first in my feeling of unfairness that others were choosing/able to be with loved ones this Christmas. The feeling of being left out is a deep human pain… the pain of rejection, of abandonment, of being unloved and unseen are all wrapped up in that one. (hmm, wrapped up, as in a gift to be opened?).  I think yesterday morning’s letter, if you look closely, was thinly veiling some of that pain. We judge others often from that place. That can be easier sometimes than facing our own sorrows or failures.

I felt it in others yesterday too, the quick sharp retort and biting reactions , lashing outwards in anger at seeming slights and misunderstandings, from those whom I love , sometimes in the midst of conversation.  I felt like I was surely stepping on terribly painful toes—the proverbial, can’t say anything right, which you probably have experienced by now, that confuses you. There is so much tension in so many of us,  from holding so much, that we are snapping from it.

I read 2 things this week that helped me to see more clearly.

When you enter the world, you come to live on the threshold between the visible and the invisible. This tension infuses your life with longing. Now you belong fully neither to the visible nor to the invisible. This is precisely what kindles and rekindles your longing and your hunger to belong. You are both artist and pilgrim of the threshold. —John O’Donohue

Beneath every behavior there is a feeling. Beneath every feeling is a need. And when we meet that need, rather than focus on the behavior, we begin to deal with the cause, not the symptom. – Ashleigh Warner

So perhaps we are not being asked to do such a small thing, after all, as I wrote with such hubris yesterday, from my own lashing out pain. It is both a small thing and a big one. Here is the snake eating its tail again, that right/wrong circle of ambiguity. It is no wonder we ‘sin’ if it means ‘missing the mark’. It can be difficult even to know what the mark is…. Well, that is not entirely true either. Love is always the mark that we aim for.

Inquiry (in response to the second quote), a gentle curiosity, ‘what’s really going on?’, is always a good first step to aligning oneself to Love. Just that question alone is to be seen and often that is all Love asks of us, to see the other as Beloved, worthy of attentive grace and compassion. And I suppose that leads to meeting that ‘need’ – not necessarily fixing or providing for (or  taking away)  or easing the grief or pain that is causing the other’s behavior—but seeing it/‘meeting’ it. Perhaps if I begin there. Just there.. whether I am seeing the pain of a loved one or the pain of the earth or the pain in humanity that is making it act out. (that ache in yesterday’s post that we are trying to blindly fill with ‘all the wrong things’, because we are not ‘seeing’ it truly for what it is)

“Take the log out of your own eye” it was said, before you point out the splinter in the other.. It hurts to have a splinter in there, let alone a log !  We must acknowledge our own pain, it seems, or we project it.

Seek to see clearly, with Love.

(Ok, the texts announcing the waking up of my world are arriving, causing me to smile and to smirk at their silliness. That is love showing up….Don should be waking up soon too.

So I will leave you with that.

Love, Gaga

Christmas eve morn 2020

Dear great, great, grandchild of mine,

It is early morning, Christmas eve day. The light has not yet brightened the windows, which surround me with their dark, sheltering eyes, this rain-soaked dawn. Their panes are as black as night, though just above me, in the bedroom they were already brightening as I rose from the bed. In some ways, this space, then, feels like a burrow, tucked beneath the wrap around porch on 3 sides, the thick legs of sheltering trees beyond that, layer upon layer between me and that brightening, yet still heavy, world.

For now I am content to be within this shelter, though I must admit there are times when I need to crawl out, into the bright world beyond these walls, where, by day, that white light is now reflected by snow. Last evening, as we walked to the post office to check for a last-minute arrival, the moon, though just a drop fuller than half, was brilliant overhead, and I relished in the way that we can spy Her here in the winter season, with the lush, sheltering, summer canopy shed of its leaves.

On this Christmas eve, 2020, we are again, as we have throughout this long year, being asked to (re)consider what Love looks like. Some of us are noticing that, like 2000 years ago, Love does not necessarily look extravertedly lavish by the standards of a culture that has taught us a contorted version of Love’s extravagance. Love is both simpler and more outrageous than that– in the subtle and bold ways that it stretches the human heart– to give of itself, to be big by being small, to sacrifice for the sake of another.

These sacrifices that are being asked of us are really so small, though you would think we were being asked to choose which child to place upon the altar. ( Sadly, in many ways, we are doing just that, placing others on the altar of our collective foolishness, deciding that certain lives will be sacrificed, or are not worthy of concern. But this is not a true sacrifice, this selfishness, twisted somehow by some people into a perverse sort of expression of self-sacrifice, one that says ‘I’m willing to take my chances’).

We are not being asked to give so much really (There are people hungry, cold, and sick who are losing so much more). We are simply being asked to stay in place, with those immediate to us, to be still, like rabbits in our burrow, beneath the roots of the tree, beneath the snow. To not rush out a moment too soon, before it is time, attracting the predator to our communities. Still, many are struggling with this human urge, mightily.

Perhaps they long for the light. Perhaps they long for the open sky, for spaciousness, for fresh air in which to breathe. Perhaps their need (real or imagined) keeps them from seeing the ‘danger’ out there. Or their dens have been unaffected so they don’t believe the predator is real.

Perhaps they long for Love.

Perhaps, for some, the need for human contact is urgent, vital for their survival. ( of course, it is) We have been asked to isolate in varying ways for 9 long months now, a gestation some feel is urging them to push the limits of their confinement.

Perhaps it is the meaning of Love itself, so overlaid with the good feelings of the holiday season, that nudges them with longing. I understand that. Perhaps for some this is the only time that they feel it– this connection to their fellow human beings, this generosity of giving at one’s own expense (too often financial, in our current culture), this alleviation of loneliness.

Grandchild, there will be other stories told of this year, from different perspectives than mine. I am just one and can see only through the small lens of my own life and experiences. My own heart. My own mind. My own capacities. My own advantage. My own wounds. It is dangerous, in ways, to even tell the story, for one individual’s perspective, in its innate narrowness, risks being blind to the reality of others. Risks judgment. And there is never one way of seeing.

Love may look different on the surface to each of us, though deep within we know what it feels like. This year, with all of these shadows coming into the light, has been one of exposing that question, asking each one of us what Love is, what it looks like, how Love acts, How it feels.

In some ways, we are all at different places, seeing differently, yes, but also in our personal journeys, no matter our chronological age. An infant receives and gives and needs Love differently than the old woman sitting in her chair next to the fire, writing to a future grandchild. So it is in our collective life.

Some love is selfish. It needs so much. It is so hungry to be fed and does not yet have the capability or the know-how to feed itself. Some love requires human connection – body to body . Like lovers entwined beneath those white sheets, some cannot feel the ecstasy of being alive and connected without physical touch.

Human loneliness is so real. We strive in so many ways to alleviate that. We really do need one another. Please don’t imagine that I am saying otherwise, my child. Our relationships and communities of belonging here on this earth hold us and form us and grow us and keep us alive from the moment we are conceived in the womb. Some say, then, that they are willing to sacrifice others safety for the sake of alleviating/feeding that loneliness in themselves, for the sake of that longing to touch, for the sake being together.

Mostly, what i have heard though, is the unwillingness to sacrifice, encapsulated by the statement ‘I’m willing to take the risk’, a devil may care attitude that puts others at risk, likely persons they will never see or know, if this surge of deaths that is anticipated occurs. That is a hard concept for humans to grasp, the abstract. As sensate beings, we are so very concrete and immediate in our awarness and our understandings.

In so many ways, we are being asked to open our hearts and our minds beyond ourselves, to see how our choices affect the whole. From an earth in crisis- from mass extinctions to ecological collapse-, to a culture (and a self within that culture) that has benefited on the backs of an oppressed race and the poverty of masses, to a hidden virus that spreads according to our whims, our willingness to sacrifice for the sake of others is being called forth.

It is not easy for us to give up what we believe we deserve, have a right to, or need. Many cannot see how giving up looks like Love, how having less feels like Love, how there is freedom and deep joy in that. Some are noticing it, however. They are glimpsing, for instance, what sabbath looks like, how it feels to let go of the fullness of our days, to simply be present to whomever and whatever they are with. They are experiencing the enoughness of simplicity .They are glimpsing the intimacy that can come with less spreading out of oneself– of one’s energy and attention and time– an intimacy that fulfills the need for human connection. Some are glimpsing how connection can be nurtured in the heart, beyond the need even for human-to-human touch, how deepening can occur when walls are erected, which keep us from spreading too wide, unsupported by roots. (I think here also of a cup vs a tabletop, or a well that is dug too shallow )

But not all have noticed this. Some have not opened the gift of letting go. Letting go of control. They rail– on both sides— not understanding that the railing is poisoning their own wells, making them sick. We are just humans, wanting our own way, unable to see how that doesn’t enrich us, but makes of us tyrants.

Some have not noticed because they are in real human strife. They are hungry, or cold, or sick, or poor, or lonely, or experiencing the grief of loss, or frightened of being so. For these I have deep compassion.

Mary’s maginificat keeps swelling up within me these weeks. Many of us need to be brought low, many of us need to be lifted, by a Love that says not ‘me first’, but ‘yes, if that is your will’. This Love that is asking us to say ‘yes’ to being humbled, to risk bearing the shame of a culture that finds us inconsequential, or foolish, or delusional to believe that this is a message of Love, to which we are being asked to submit.

Oh child, I have digressed, as so often I do when writing to you. As you can probably tell, my heart, too, is heavy this morning with longing- to be with those whom I love– and I find myself feeling particularly sad this morning, and if i am honest, (which i find it possible to be here with you) angry too. When i see so many others unwilling to sacrifice, i notice my own longing increase, the loss feels more potent perhaps when you feel you are bearing it alone. I feel left out. That’s an aspect of community belonging too, the bearing of burdens feels lighter when shared, then when placed on the backs of a few.

And I digress again. Just as in life, i suppose, there are no straight lines. All is circular it seems… even what is right and what is wrong looks like a snake swallowing its tail…. the coyote who kills the rabbit to feed its young pups. Is our species so very different then in our actions? I wonder though. Our hunger feels so very out of proportion to our need. Why do we act as if we are starving? That, i suspect, is where the work must begin, to somehow feed this hidden hunger that drives us, so that we stop consuming each other, consuming too much of the wrong things— things that never reach that deep ache for Love anyway.

I hope that in this letter you hear grace and not righteousness. That you hear my own humanity. For, as I wrote near the beginning of this winding tail (spelling intended), i am but one small human with one small perspective. While I believe I have gleaned some wisdom from life, I am just as certain that i am as blind as my neighbor.

The windows are now bright. Through the west facing panes, I see the snow upon my neighbor’s roof.

Love, Gaga

moving toward night, i become more morning

In the east window, the sky turns blue, not like the flash of incandescence under the coffeepot this dark December morn, but shy, like the rain that rustles before it falls, or the first note of the first bird. Sometimes we know them, moments incandescent, but more often the meaning comes only as time burnishes it, candle, not lightning, pearl after slow pearl strung in secret, as we grow more wise. The light turns blue, the coffee steams. Each day now, the world darkening toward zero, I rise earlier just to know that first incandescent blue. Moving toward night, I grow more morning

Judith Cordary

Each day, this season leading to winter, I’ve also found myself rising earlier and earlier, the bedroom surround of windows whispering of the coming dawn, nudging me to wake, the room no longer charcoal black but more like those ashes after the heat is spent.

In the quiet grey, next to the fire, I too sit with my coffee, not heated by the incandescent blue gas flame of the poet, but with the touch of my finger upon the neon blue button of my friend, Keurig. It is the fire next to me that burns blue, but that too was ignited by the touch of a button. I flip the switch, it blazes hot. Across the room, the blue light of the aquarium full of friends, who remind me what it feels like to swim underwater, glows next to the Yule tree, whom I have come to learn was originally adorned with lights to symbolize the sun, moon, and stars gazing upon the Tree of Life. I’ve lain beneath wise old conifers in the dark of a northern night, and witnessed that crowd of stars twinkling in the grace of their branches, and understood that ancient connection.

Gradually, the windows surrounding me let in the light, and I see. Silhouettes of trees, likewise, surrounding me. Concentric circles of surroundedness, expanding beyond the pinpoint of light that i am. Soon, the noise of the day- that light that blinds us to the enveloping darkness– will begin to make itself known, will fill this spaciousness with the clutter (and beauty) of life.

As I grow older, I am coming to prefer these moments of quiet darkness, of invisibility, if you will. They say, in our culture, in particular, that as we grow older, we become more and more invisible– as if that is a shame. I understand what ‘they’ are saying. I feel that too, the poignancy of that loss of identity, of importance, of centrality, of vitality (as in, being seen as vital). If i am not careful, I can trip in the darkness and fall into that same old hole. It is in truth, a very young hole, an old wound, the feeling of being invisible in one’s own family, unseen and unloved, the feeling of unbelonging, and one that i must take care to walk gingerly past, gazing with grace upon it, like an old friend. That hole is also an ego hole, though, the need to be seen as important.

Here, in the dark, I know invisibility as comfort, as strength, as ultimate belonging. It is quiet. It is full. It is mystery. It is deep contentment. It is withness. It is wisdom. Wisdom, that needs not attention, nor affirmation. Wisdom that simply is . Wisdom that is not seen; it sees.

Here in the dark, I rise, as I have now for ages. My hair is now the color of moonlight, reflecting an inner sun that has moved deep beneath the horizon of others, to the center of my soul. I am content, mostly, these days to be that steady unassuming gaze, in the background smiling, a subtler being on the landscape, no longer the center of orbit. I know that, even in the dark, the wisdom of the Moon may light a path across the water… or draw a world-weary eye to wonder, for a moment, at least, pulled out of distraction or despair— or draw the tides of change (although those down below will always imagine it was their cleverness that engineered it). Here in the dark of morning, I see. That to withdraw from the chaos is to see, is to call for the stillness from which true movement might be noticed and embraced.

Here in the dark, no longer standing at a fiery center that demands all to orbit about me, I see. The fire of so many hearths. Hearths that are centers of intimacy and belonging and Love, hearths that were lighted by Love– some of them, perhaps, from mine, before i was thrust into this farther orbit. From this vantage, that is a sight to behold. Being the moon is Ok. I suspect her rising is simply maturing of Love within me.

The world is darkening toward zero. I rise, melting into the morning .

The coffee is cold in my cup. Obstructions grow more visible. I sense their sharpness and shadows. But I step around that hole. With the wisdom of age, Love also matures, and that stepping aside is beginning to feel easy. Right. Natural.

I carry the Wisdom of darkness within me, more and more, these days, even when the light threatens to overwhelm its truth of wholeness, of completeness, of oneness.

Of stillness.

Of presence.

Of peace.

let yourself be dark

.”When night came, it did not fall, as people say it does. Beyond the bright crown of earth, the heavens were always dark. Here, on this lonely hill, tinier than the smallest suggestion of a moment, I watched the darkness rise up from the ground to meet the steady darkness overhead, as if the two worlds had been waiting for the sun to go so they could touch again”,

Lauren Wolk, Beyond the Bright Sea

Let yourself Be
dark
Let your darkness expand 
to be kissed by the heavens
Unencumbered by light, 
unenlightened, unknowing, 
en-lightened, weightless

Let knowledge release its grip
into that dark unworded mystery
Be Wonder and Grace
Quiet, unspoken 
Vast, enough

Let there be shadows to dance in
to make love in
to be wombed in

Quiet to sink in
Stillness to bathe in 

Let yourself trust
as those who came before
that the heavens are trustworthy, again
It is not up to you to push
the earth back into orbit
to tilt this heavy weight back toward the light

Be free of that gravity
we will be nurtured again
our hearts will be warmed again
Love will be rooted 
Again

On this long night, where there is 
no distinction between
heaven and earth
inner and outer
space, you and me
Let it Be
One

It never was separate
It is only the light that blinds us
temporarily
on this exquisite planet
of color and texture and form 
of lush and riotous beauty
It is natural
to forget the darkness
 from which we come. 


a solstice gift for you

A collection of poems and writings compiled for your evening meditation, as you sit, as did our ancients, in the midst of this longest night, in the mystery and trustworthiness of the heavens.

Find a room where you can sit in the dark. Read through these snippets slowly, notice what rises. Don’t overthink, just notice, allow, accept or reject without judgment, what stirs in your belly, what is yours.

1.”When night came, it did not fall, as people say it does. Beyond the bright crown of earth, the heavens were always dark. Here, on this lonely hill, tinier than the smallest suggestion of a moment, I watched the darkness rise up from the ground to meet the steady darkness overhead, as if the two worlds had been waiting for the sun to go so they could touch again”, Lauren Wolk, in Beyond the Bright Sea,

2.

They (the physicists) shook light from darkness! They coaxed something out of what we normally think of as nothing—the vacuum of space, the abyss, the void. But there is no such thing as empty space, The void is in reality a quantum sea of light, teeming with activity. The question is how to glimpse it because the particles move in and out of existence in the blink of an eye.

Our entire existence is a continuous, universe-wide bringing forth and returning once again into this all nourishing ‘abyss’, This ultimate reality is pure being, pure consciousness, where everything has its source; an ocean of pure potentiality at the basis of all existence, it does not arise as a result of some particular arrangement or form, it is always present.   – In the stillness you will Know.

notes taken from Awe-filled Wonder, by Barbara Fiand

3.

“At the center of our being is a point of nothingness
which is untouched by sin and by illusion, a point of pure truth, a point or spark which
belongs entirely to God, which is never at our disposal, from which God disposes of
our lives, which is inaccessible to the fantasies of our own mind or the brutalities of our
own will. This little point of nothingness and of absolute poverty is the pure glory of
God in us. . . . It is like a pure diamond, blazing with the invisible light of
heaven.” (Merton, Conjectures of a Guilty Bystander)

4.

The cat sits on the back of the sofa looking

out the window through the softly falling snow

at the last bit of gray light

I can’t say the sun was going down.

We haven’t seen the sun for two months

Who cares?

I am sitting in the blue chair listening to this stillness

The only sound: the occasional gurgle of tea

Coming out of the pot and into the cup

How can this be?

Such calm, such peace, such solitude

In this world of woe

-David Budbill  

     

5.

We are too often unhappy, while on and on

the world remains the gift of presence God

meant it to be at the beginning and sustains

in every moment and when we catch

even a glimpse of this, our restlessness

begins to open to a deeper stillness within us

where we will come to know that what is

now torn apart and broken will finally come

back to the stillness which rests in the deep

oneness of this life and in the breadth of Love

A deeper stillness –Meister Eckhart, as translated by Mark Burrows and Jon Sweeney

6.

To know the dark, Wendell Berry

To go in the dark with a light is to know the light

To know the dark, go dark. Go without sight

And find that the dark too, blooms and sings,

And is traveled by dark feet and dark wings

Now, if you will, read this before turning off the light to be dark

2020

Winter solstice poem*

The shortest day and the longest night have arrived

We turn our attention to stillness

As we enter the darkness

willingly

As we slow down and turn inward

We rest in the belly of darkness

We are held in the womb of God

We resist no more

We force no more

We are anxious no more

We fear no more

We rest

We allow

We soften

We surrender

We stop

We stop the struggle

We stop the pushing

We stop the striving

We stop the future telling

We stop to see What Is 

And in doing so we surrender to the void

We arrive at the abyss

Where miracles are made

where mystery lives

Where connectivity reigns

Where creation begins

And we wait

We wait

We patiently wait….

Turn off the light now, and sit for 20 minutes in the darkness. After 20 minutes come back here to read the closing prayer

And in this quiet moment

We feel the peace in the darkness

We sense the potential in the abyss

We perceive the presence..

of light

We see its truth

We’re in awe of its beauty

We are lost in the wonder

We sense our own capacity for light

And we wait

For the light to rise

For the light to heal

For the light to guide our way

We turn our focus to hope

We turn our focus to faith

We turn our focus to Love

And in the light we see

And WE rise

To hope

To love

To create

A new year is here

The turning has already happened

May we trust

May we soften

May we Be the Light

Amen, and a little woman

– *compiled from an online source, Plentyconsulting.com

haikus

1. 
Today I allowed
myself to be small, a seed
a droplet, enough

2.
Let yourself be seen
as relinquishment alone
bathed in compassion

3.
Let impotence heal
this striving within you held
by powerless grace

4.
The fierce lion of pain
will not allow the gentle
to remove the thorn

5.
Negativity
is perhaps a clever cloak
worn by the tender

6.
Let the dark be dark
don't barge in through that door with light
let your eyes adjust

7.
To be human, let
your vulnerability
be cherished by Love

8.
The vulnerable
the humble, the powerless
bearers of Love

surrendering to Love

…. facing my own vulnerability and pain

  

“The breeze at dawn has secrets to tell, don’t go back to sleep.” – Rumi

I wanted to walk away this morning, but my soul had other plans. It begged me to sit with this feeling of ‘too much’ (yes, you can bear it) one more time, to not rush out that door headlong into winter, that there was something yet to glean from these seedheads.

The last of the grains came free with these words, “Eventually, it feels like forgiving Reality Itself for being what it is’,  the last lines of a brief morning reading on the practice of letting go.

And I remembered that sweetness

All those years ago in the midst of my own devastation, God coming to me, seeking my forgiveness for being ‘imperfect and impotent’, asking if I could Love Him even here (often in ghastly images),  yearning for me to welcome Him into my embrace.

I understand now. That was about acceptance — Love Of Life, as it is.  No denial of its ugliness, or refusal to acknowledge its suffering.

This morning, in the breaking dawn, I clearly saw the wide gulf between deep curiosity about life and the rigidity of certainty about it, between the wisdom of love and the self-assurance of knowledge and information, between resting in the knowledge that Love is Deep within All and denying that Life is Pain and the world is broken.  And I asked myself, “What vulnerable place within me am I seeking to assure with certainty… or to protect with denial? What grief, perhaps, am I unwilling to accept?”

That question broke open the hard-coated seed to Love within. Suddenly I can see that my striving– seeking answers and explanations, understanding and solutions– stems from this vulnerability.

As each day for hours, often several times a day, the pain and darkness of a beloved one pours into my heart through the cellphone attached to my ear; as each day, images and articles of the brokenness and suffering in our world pour into my heart from the screen, I divert the flow of that pain to my heart with so many words and thoughts – a world of ideas flowing into and out of my head. My brain tricks me into thinking it can grasp onto some formula to solve the problems of Life (if only ‘they’ could see)… and avoid feeling the pain of a heart broken open by Life’s suffering.

The truth is that Life is pain (it is also bliss. sorrow and joy. terror and beauty, night and day). That pain needs to be held by compassion (perhaps, it wants to teach us about compassion). Where there is suffering, it seeks mercy. Where there is grief, tenderness. Acceptance not resistance.  Surrender not solution. Forgiveness not fixing. (the ‘if only they could see control’ transforms into the release of ‘forgive them for they don’t know’) A Love like that heals, and transforms darkness into light.

This morning, I wondered how I forgot this, as I really thought I’d done this work long ago (when in the midst of my own life-rending pain)  had come to accept that Life’s heartache is an essence of her Great Beauty, after all, a paradoxically necessary part of our journey of Becoming more deeply human, softening to Love. But I asked myself, ‘Is it true that you have come to accept/love the Reality of Life? Do you truly have compassion for Life as you claim that you do? Or do you want to bypass its ugliness and get straight to the Beauty? Can you love its darkness, too?”

I so yearn for the transformation of pain in others, in this world – but perhaps I am too attached to that outcome, and so I try to push rather than allow it. ( my mind cannot help but bring forth images of childbirth here- the pain of contraction softening the cervix, allowing for the birth of a new being)

I see now that in allowing the pain of others to enter my heart, I must take care to not let it get caught in my head, separated from my soul, to Re-Member that pain to the Wholeness of life as I know it to Be.

This morning I acknowledged my own sorrow and grief, which I’ve been denying in my unwillingness to feel the vulnerability that comes with opening to the pain of the other. This morning, I allowed myself to be a mortal human being, tender with the vulnerability of unknowing.  This morning, I allowed that pain to be seen and to be held. This cracked open the seed, if you will– To release its clinging to knowledge and expertise, To let go its need to fix so as not to feel anxiety and fear, To fall into true acceptance and Love.

Simply Love.

I expect the yearning to alleviate pain and transform suffering is a Holy Yearning, which gets a bit twisted up in my human attempts at responding to Life’s pain. The question for me is how does it truly look to offer comfort not answers*, hope not invalidation — to Be and to Act with Compassion and Love, with Mercy and Grace, grounded in the Wisdom of Soul, with Love—open eyed, open hearted, open souled. To love the darkness without trying to make it be light. To love those who, from within their own brokenness, cannot see or receive or know Love, or whose own hardness will not let you close enough to remove the thorn that is causing their pain. This is not to turn my back on What I Know, but to enter more deeply into this Beloved World, bearing that Love on my sleeve (some of those seeds, you see, clung to my coat).

Vulnerable to the full catastrophe. 

*My husband and I were talking about how difficult it is sometimes to crack the veneer of one who is unable to receive a message of Love. (Some seeds require a manual knicking, often performed in nature by bird beaks). I thought of my own journey, and how vital it was to hear and to receive new definitions of Love from those outside of myself, in order to heal my image of self. But then I wondered, what soul force was it within me that sought out those outside messages, what soul knowledge allowed me to receive them.  He came up with the image of an egg, that the chick must crack the shell open from within. I’ve also learned that butterflies are the same- that if someone tries to ‘help’ it in its painful looking struggle to free itself from the chrysalis, that butterfly with not survive. But I wondered about that image of the egg, and how it is also that something must keep the egg warm, while the chick grows strong enough to survive in the outside world. I think of my very pregnant daughter-in-law, and the strength of the womb to both nurture and protect, but to also push life forcefully forth. The process is painful. There is a powerful life-force within the seed, within the egg, within life– and there are conditions in which that life force is supported to develop, and in which the birthing is midwifed by one who knows the way.. And so, I am left with both/and in regards to this inner/outer action of Love. We are the hands and feet, as they say… And within each of us is the spark of the Divine urging us into Life.

oversaturated

A few weeks ago, I wrote of the banquet table that was spread out before me, as I found myself feasting upon a new stack of books. Well, here I am today feeling abit like Thanksgiving afternoon, all that gratitude transformed into gluttony.

It’s not really the books, perse, that have left me feeling overstuffed and bereft. It’s just that, well, one thing leads to another, with information overload so ready at my fingertips, with the synergy of emails between friends leaping across the synapses in my brain, with the plethora of excellent soulful offerings on zoom or podcast, daily readings, thought provoking essays, self-help advice for a loved one… you get the idea. And it is not lost on me that here I am adding more words to the blogosphere… with these journaling prompts from the latest book on the stack.

It seems I have moved from satisfying the hunger in the belly of my soul, to oversaturating my brain. Words. Words. Words. Thinking. Thinking. Thinking. Ideas. Ideas. Ideas. Solutions. Solutions. Solutions.

I live in a culture that teaches me that consumers are vital aspects of a healthy ecosystem. That consumption will make me happier. That, if I have free access to consuming, then I really ought to take advantage. The hunger for healing and wholeness in me perhaps makes that a potential deathtrap, for I could consume myself into a virtual coma.

But I don’t believe we are made to be consumers of this earth. Nor do I believe we are meant to be consumers of information. In both cases, our souls are starved of what they truly need.

I also suspect that our brains are not made to hold so much information. We have access to too much, more than our physiology can digest. That makes us sick. I have been feeling that — anxiety, inability to process, faitigue, vulnerability. I suspect that , just as we are advised to eat local, our brains are also designed to process- and relate to – the local, the immediate, the present, the actual.

As I hit upon so clearly yesterday, I know I am not meant to carry it all…but to open to Love it all. Ironically i think that is one of the gifts of the internet, if we can ever allow it to simply be so, that it might be a container for our brains so that we can be freed to be human again.

Sometimes, I wish i weren’t so voracious for knowledge. I’d like to look at that. Does it make me feel safe, less vulnerable somehow? What answers am I truly seeking? One very real problem for me (and one that I suspect is an invitation into loving awareness) is my need to respond to EVERYTHING — which is somehow tied to my need to fix to alleviate my anxiety– to be necessary… (to be loved?). The relinquishment of this attachment is a strong Soul pull that I feel, this call to surrender, to accept…to simply fall…in Love. I cannot fix a broken heart …or a broken world. On a deeper level than that, I expect this is a practice to which I am invited into the ultimate surrender– to the Reality of life and death itself.

This morning, I woke, yearning for emptiness, wanting all of these seeds within me to burst from the pod, be dispersed to the wind, to be free of them. Winter is the time to be still, emptied of ideas, emptied of knowing, emptied of reaching and grasping, emptied even desire.

So, this morning, I took a long walk through the snow-covered landscape. I noted where squirrels and deer had crossed the path before me. I noted the way the seedheads of summer’s blossoms were the gathering places for winter’s crystals. I left the turret of my brain to enter the kingdom of my body, and I remembered what it feels like to simply be alive.

And i realized again, that this is why i go… out there, into the wild. To be simple again. To be immediate. To be present. To be real. And I understood that this is the reality i wish to bring home to this place — not another binge cycle, but a steady diet of simple goodness– of quiet, of stillness, of depth, of meaning, of trust, of belonging, of rightness, of Love for this place.

So, the task laid out before me is how to be simple here. How to know what is mine to carry, what food I should eat, how to sit by the water each morning, in stillness, falling in love, and let that be enough. More than enough.

For I truly believe that this is what the earth needs, for more of us to be still, to be simple, and to fall into Love. So, I likely won’t be here in this virtual place again for some time.

I leave you, for now, with this excerpt from an essay from LLewyllen Vaughn Lee, which came upon my desk this morning. May it be an open gate for you to also enter….

Ordinary, everyday awareness can return us to a place of balance, where we are part of the living community to which we really belong. A community not of internet bubbles, but of the earth and the clouds and the sun on the water. Whether this is an answer or merely a refuge I do not yet know. I am reassured to find this primal awareness described centuries ago, in teachings and poems that remain outside of time. Today, watching a little ruby-crowned bird looking for food at my feet, I feel true kinship. Focused on her own search, she allows me to come close, without fear or concern. Walking through this gate that is always open, we can return to a quality of consciousness beyond truth and lies, one that is more primal, spontaneous. Here an old man in his garden watching a little green bird can leave behind a strange fractured world of distortions and breathe an air that is not toxic, walk on a land that is still singing.

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